MEN: Are Even the Good Ones Bad?

Chapter 1 Are Even the Good Ones BadGlobally and especially in Western cultures we are in the midst of the greatest societal transformation in the history of humanity the transformation from male to female dominanceamp8220All the good men are either married or gay Otherwise theyamp8217re fucked upamp8221 If you know any single women seeking a monogamous relationship with a man youamp8217ve certainly heard that sentiment Many will even add amp8220And most of the married ones are fucked up tooamp8221The shrinking number of heterosexual men who are emotionally functional and able to sustain a relationship built on truth is radically affecting the balance of power between men and women Lack of supply is not creating high demand instead as feminism becomes an ingrained reality women progressively take more and more control of their sexual lives their careers and their futures unfettered by their needs and desires for male partners Straight single men may find it easier to get dates and even have sex but there are few women who are willing to accept most of them as prospects for longterm relationships or even shortterm ones More and more as personified in TV programs and advertising women view men as a helpless and hopeless sex In fact a 2015 study from the international market research company YouGov described in the Independent Journal Review claims that women are more likely to end longterm relationshipsamp8212as much as 84 percent of them were ended by the female partnerInstead of trying to change men as they once believed they could women are progressivelyamp8212and increasingly aggressivelyamp8212taking control away from them Women today are no longer willing to passively accept male dominance deceit aggression and control They will no longer stand by men who disrespect their love through infidelity or stay with men who are neglectful and detached and who fail to connect emotionally and share intimacy A amp8220goodamp8221 man today is not defined by his conquests power or sexual dominion These are the tenets of a dying race of dominant males the parables of ancient rituals and the requirements of an age that exists only in our own mindsYet men and society remain ruled by these outdated beliefs which remain deeply embedded pillars that stand firm against the rising tide of female power and leadership They are menamp8217s weapons as men battle to retain their traditional roles and the right to do as they please without accountability regret or selfdestruction For too many decades these pillars have remained solid enabling men to hold forth against the tidal wave of womenamp8217s advances and progressHow many men out there believe they are acting in all the right ways accepting total equality for women and rejecting misogyny and sexual misbehavior while still engaging in stupid chestpuffing male behavior without accountability Oblivious to the dangerous and devastating implications of their actions they believe that they wonamp8217t be amp8220outedamp8221 or that they will be able to lie or buy their way out of anything if caught The Ashley Madison disclosures were just part of a growing wave of evidence that infidelity can no longer be protected behind a wall of secrecy Comedian Bill Cosby has consistently refuted sexual abuse accusations since 2000 and continues to gainsay any criminal acts even after fifty women have come forward against him Misguided and outdated attitudes are at the foundation of the belief system of male power and dominance rooted in almost all hierarchies including family work church sports politics education and the artsAs each chapter in this book will explain in wellresearched detail a power shift from male domination to femaleamp8211male equality and in many instances growing female dominance is at the foundation of an upheaval that is now radically transforming society The walls are tumbling and the floors collapsing under menamp8217s regime Male masters of the universe can no longer use their physical strength governmental authority or financial control to dictate and rule over the position and privileges of women in the family the workplace society politics or cultureLife and gender are intertwined and inseparable Our gender education begins with our ancestral realities it continues with our very first experiences with our parents our siblings and the men and women who raise and teach us Our gender identity is at the very core of our being It is also intimately linked to our sexual identity Sexual experiences and associations form fantasy worlds as we discover and experience what it feels like to be aroused Do we connect or disconnect Do we marry Are we gay straight transgender or one of the many other ways a person can experience gender identity Are we enthusiastic about sex Do we conquer destructive patterns in our relationships or do they remain ingrained in our actions throughout life Do we ever find true and sustainable love Do we establish mutual trust in relationships and honor that trust forever Do we achieve a sense of dignity or do we act in ways that make others indignant toward us Are we totally honest in our relationships or do we follow the mantra of amp8220deny deny denyamp8221 See Chapter 5 Deny Deny Deny Menamp8217s Destructive Instinct to Lie Do we ever achieve true selfesteem and if we do have we earned the right to itMen and women need to be aware of and sensitive to the challenges these questions imply as traditional gender norms are uprooted and transformed Menamp8217s and womenamp8217s mutual commitment must be to understanding and interpreting new gender truths and to remaining open to change along the journey They must begin to practice and teach a new mantra of absolute honesty mutual respect and trustA womanamp8217s power is in her intuition experience common sense and her inherent desire to collaborate rather than fight When women say amp8220I understandamp8221 they mostly do unlike men who are often clueless but wonamp8217t admit it Women are powerfulamp8212sexually intuitively and intellectually Women view men through that prism while men all too frequently view women sexually seeing them as a collection of body parts Women rarely if ever allow sex to take priority in their decision making without active consideration of the implications even if that deliberation takes just seconds The male sex drive is rarely informed in such a way its role is to jump into action and perform The libido takes up arms against rational thinking and fights off all obstacles to achieve its mission When an inappropriate flirtation or fixation backfires rather than backing off as he should the man may continue to march forward undeterred until the mission is carried through to fruition or declared abortiveNo matter where the male sex drive may center its attention or how aggressively men may assert their physical power and dominance men are being progressively outmaneuvered outsmarted and outresourced by women This is the genetic and historical reality that men must understand accept and embrace if they are to have a positive and productive future in a world in which women are at least an equally dominant forceThe last generation of amp8220traditionalamp8221 males is now in their late twenties The first wave of Internet natives is just entering their adult years heralding a new age of gender relationships that have different role models a history born with the Internet and new guidelines for behavior This generation is dismissing customary gender definitions as irrelevant conventional malefemale roles are shifting The first generation of amp8220future menamp8221 is a more evolved species though still in its formative stages The future man recognizes respects and relates to the growing dominance of women in many areas of society culture relationships family and business Yet these young men are also confused by the conflicting realities that put them in the crosshairs between traditional definitions of masculinity and emerging behavioral expectations It will take decades but we are in the midst of an irreversible transformation women are gaining power and influence as traditional roles and expectations disappear and new gender norms evolve This is the story of The Future of Men Men on TrialChapter 2 The Future of Men Just the FactsChapter 3 Men Confused Challenged ConflictedChapter 4 The Age of the Dominant Male Has PassedChapter 5 Deny Deny Deny Menamp8217s Destructive Instinct to LieChapter 6 Men and Personal Intimacy DisorderChapter 7 Sex Sells And So Do Moronic MenChapter 8 Eyes Wide Open A New Sexual RevolutionChapter 9 Women Take Control in the BedroomChapter 10 Sisters Going Their Own WayChapter 11 Heterosexual Women and Gay Men The New RelationshipChapters 1216 TV and Media Reflecting Change Leading ChangeChapters 1718 Gender Convergence and Womenamp8217s StrugglesChapters 1922 Men Women and Power The New RealityChapters 2331 Stories from a Womanamp8217s HeartChapters 3233 The Future of MenOrder your copies and gifts for the men and women in your life at Amazon or your favorite bookseller The Future of Men was originally published in March 2016 amp160Chapter One title credit to Joe Hogan Click the social buttons above or below to share this story with your friends and colleaguesThe opinions and points of view expressed in this content are exclusively the views of the author andor subjects and do not necessarily represent the views of MediaVillagecomMyersBizNet Inc management or associated writers

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